You don’t always have to make the best out of a shitty situation just because you can.
Give yourself permission to say what isn’t working, to end a toxic relationship, to ask for more + better, to raise yourself up to the bar of excellence.
You don’t always have to optimize what’s in front of you if it isn’t working. That’s survival mode. That’s scraping by.
And while that may have been useful when you were in survival mode so that you could survive, you’re NOT in survival mode right now and don’t need to continue acting that way.
Raising your hand and asking for more is self-advocacy.
This act boosts your self-esteem, even if you don’t get what you asked for.
Because it’s in the advocacy, in the asking and in the audacity that your self-esteem is bolstered. NOT in the receiving.
Even if it feels uncomfortable, bold, audacious.
Misplaced entitlement comes when you expect someone to give you what doesn’t belong to you out of obligation, guilt or duty. So, don’t be afraid of asking for want you want, of raising your hand to say what isn’t working, to fix what’s broken, to take responsibility for everything in your jurisdiction — and ONLY that.
There is a big gap between acceptable and excellence.
Excellence isn’t perfection or flawlessness. It’s full tilt, full capacity, giving it all you’ve got, the best of what’s possible in that moment.
It’s using everything you have to get what you want. It’s doing the best you can with the tools you have and continuing to get better tools.
It’s owning your truth, telling your truth, taking full responsibility for your truth.
It’s letting everyone else off the hook from playing psychic, anticipating your needs without your communication and telling them how you feel and what you need.
Excellence isn’t perfection because excellence is ever-expanding good and it’s always available to you — even right here and now. There’s no way to get it “right” or “wrong”.
It’s okay to ask for what you want and need.
It’s okay to give yourself what you want and need.
It’s okay to create excellence WITHOUT the harsh lens of perfection.
Because excellence can be light, playful, fun, beautiful + magnificent.
It doesn’t have to be rigid, narrow or how up one particular way.
Create excellence your own way, on your own terms.
You don’t have to settle for less.
All my love,
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